How To Stop Guilt Tripping Yourself After Trauma
Guilt is a common feeling that survivors of sexual violence and trauma feel, if not the most common. This can lead you down a negative, self-defeating rabbit hole that can last a lifetime.
Guilt Solves Nothing
Guilt keeps us stuck. It robs us of our self-esteem and power. Here are two ways to stop guilt tripping yourself after you’ve experienced abuse and trauma.
1. Open The Sacral Chakra
When trauma occurs, our energy centers or chakras close down. When a chakra closes down, our energy becomes stagnant and doesn’t flow smoothly in our energy field.
According to Christie Smirl in Chakra Alignment, “Higher levels of health and wellness can be unlocked and obtained when we realize that we are so much more than just a brain and physical body.” Your chakras are key energy centers in transforming your life from guilt.
The Sacral Chakra
The sacral chakra is located in the lower abdominal area. It is associated with ideas and patterns related to creativity, sensuality, passion, life enjoyment and self nurturing. When this chakra is balanced, we experience healthy boundaries, experience joy, hope, pleasure, passion and develop healthy emotional and social skills.
The main shadow emotion that creates imbalance here is guilt. Guilt creates abnormalities that may appear as controlling behaviors, lack of adaptivity, blame, sexual deviation, victimization, body shame, poor social skills or lack of excitement for life. It may indicate difficulties around blame, guilt, money, sex, power, control, social skills, pleasure, libido, and emotional sensitivity.
Opening and balancing the sacral chakra is a fantastic way to stop the guilt tripping.
Get In The Water
Water is an element that is governed by the sacral chakra. Go for a swim or sit near water, take a bath, stand in water, fill a sink with cold water and ice and place your hands in them for as long as you can stand or wash your face.
These are all things you can do when you start feeling guilt well up inside of you.
Repeat A Mantra
According to Do You website, mantras are repetitive words or sounds that are repeated over and over either out loud or silently.
The sound “Vam” adjusts and balances the sacral chakra. It may seem foreign at first, but as you continue, it gets more comfortable. Take a deep breath in and on the out breath, say “vaaaaammmmmmm”. Repeat until you feel better.
Essential Oils and Crystals
Do something loving for yourself and rub an essential oil such as: cedarwood, tangerine or ylang ylang over your pelvic region. Check first with your physician if you have medical issues or allergies. I have created a custom essential oil blend included in The Light Box made especially for releasing guilt, stress and trauma.
Wear a crystal to support the pelvic area such as: carnelian, ruby, amber, or moonstone. You can place it in a holder and wear it or put it in your pants pocket.
2. Stop The Mind Games
Your mind continuously plays games with you. Torturous games…that appear to have a strangle hold on you.
The mind is a terrible master and a wonderful servant. So the saying goes. When we make it our master, it controls everything that we think, feel and do. It has conditioned us since childhood. It was never meant to be this way.
We Are Separate From The Mind
We are not the mind. As Richard Dotts says in: Dissolve The Problem, “You are the I am presence-an eternal and unchanging energy that isn’t dependent on any outer circumstances. It is a pure, deep peaceful presence regardless of what is going on around you. It is always there and always accessible.” This is our Soul to the Universe.
Making The Soul Connection
When we begin connecting with the Soul, we have access to the Infinite. We begin to recognize our true nature and drop the guilty, controlling, disturbing, hurtful, thoughts from the mind. It just doesn’t have influence over us anymore.
Three Ways to Deepen Your Soul Connection
Meditation is a great way to deepen your soul connection. It doesn’t have to be something you do for hours like the yogis. It can be as short as 1-2 minutes when you are sitting down. You can also meditate while walking or cleaning. Some people meditate while gardening or caring for their house plants.
Art is a fantastic way to make a soul connection. When we create art, we are connecting with a greater part of ourselves. We don’t have to be a Rembrandt or Picasso. I would ask you not to judge, just let loose and enjoy the experience.
I love paint pouring. It is a easy way to make art that doesn’t require talent or experience. You can find many videos on YouTube.
The soul is located in the heart, so by connecting with the heart, we deepen our soul connection. I’ve created a simple exercise to connect with the heart to release guilt.
Get In The Elevator To Release Guilt
In the beginning, you may want to do this in a quiet location, but when you get comfortable with it, it can be done anywhere.
When guilt arises within you, close your eyes. Vision yourself getting into an elevator. Push the down button. When the door opens, you see a space filled with beautiful, brilliant light. Step into that light and just take it in. It is surrounding and filling you. This is a safe and loving space. You can place your hands on your heart if that feels good.
Stay here as long as you can, just soaking it in. If you feel the guilt coming back in, focus on your breath…the in and out of your breath in the nostrils or the up and down of the stomach.
Every time you “get” into the elevator, you are deepening your connection to your Soul and moving away from the chaotic thoughts of the mind. The mind becomes your servant instead of your master. You can come here anytime you like. The more you do it, the easier it becomes and the more peaceful your life becomes. It may sound simple, but it has life changing implications.
These are a few ways to stop guilt tripping yourself about trauma. To clearing your chakras which raises your vibration, to freeing yourself of guilt by moving out of your limited, conditioned head/mind to your unlimited heart/soul space. The chakras and heart are where infinite possibilities and life changing opportunities are uncovered.
Apply these techniques and experience guilt and trauma becoming a thing of the past. Learn more about how Sunny healed from abuse and trauma.